Two days ago, we made the two-hour drive to see the specialists who gave us our youngest son’s diagnosis four years ago.
This time, we were going to see if we could get to a more definitive diagnosis for Speedy, because while we felt like we were standing in the right forest, we definitely were not barking up the right tree… it didn’t seem enough to simply classify it as combined-type ADHD, and we’ve gotten nowhere with medications so far.
The psychologist who saw him a few months ago agreed, and at that first appointment he couldn’t even get through the evaluations with Speedy. He is just so… speedy. This time we took a different approach, with me listing off all of the long-term behaviors and sensory needs, social skills needs and anything else that might fit the bill.
After a half hour of working with Speedy, they emerged and he told me that he absolutely felt comfortable expanding his diagnosis to included autism spectrum disorder. Speedy felt it important to interject, “the numbers on the clock are WRONG. They are not first grade numbers at all. You need to change them…I’m watching you….”.
After a moment to hide a smile, the doctor did say that if we were working with the DSM-IV, he’d receive a diagnosis of Asperger’s Syndrome, however that is now all lumped in with ASD under the new criteria.
Occasionally it washes over me that something that was never even on our radar five years ago now utterly consumes us. This life we live, it’s not for the faint of heart. It’s not what we expected at all, and yet here we are. Day after day, tirelessly advocating not just for our children but for all children and adults with disabilities. And you know what? While I clearly wouldn’t trade it for anything, I’m so so tired.